Is Your Romance Playing ReRuns?

Did you like reading "Cinderella" or watching" Sex in the City", but of late feel stuck in your own melodrama and not too happy with it? After puberty, you think you'd have given up fairytales! Maybe you're a lucky one and have chosen a decent romance story, and not suffering over the one you have. But if your romance is flagging, the culprit is a fantasy rerun that is paralleling your reality. It's like having a split screen playing two stories at the same time. For women, one movie is running "Prince Charming", while on the other screne is "The Disenchanting Frog".

You tell yourself your partner SHOULD be more like Prince Charming! And not like the Frustrating Frog asleep on the sofa! 'Cinderella did NOT get to stay at the ball' and 'No romance ever lasts', the pouting actress simpers. So just like in Sex in the City, she ponders about the next one. With such old and familiar fiction droning on, you hardly realize your mind's on an never ending rerun loop.
If you're sad or disillusioned over your unrecognized dreams and romantic expectations, it helps to remember it's your own mind's drama. You are the protagonist, the storyteller and the script writer. You even direct how to act and respond in each scene. But isn't it is easier to focus on the Frog? It seems everything we do has payoffs. Focusing on the relationship and disappointment with the "Prince" is a distraction from running your own life. This addiction keeps you irresponsible and dependent, just like a little kid wishing for a Fairy Godmother. Hardly a fun payoff, as it prevents you from creating your own good health and happiness now.

When stuff happens and people don't behave, get out some paper and write a new story for your mind's myth collection. This would stop the old re-actions to former fixed fantasies. If your "Prince Charming" is being a "Total Toad", remember everything has a shadow and that it's your adherence to high hopes casting the darkness. You can feel pain or loss in the moment but choose NOT TO SUFFER. You can also choose how you want to act. Remember, pain is a given in life but suffering is optional. It's easy to say that you need to change your thinking. It's the doing part that's more difficult, yet it is the doing that creates change. Watching your mind's make-beliefs will help turn off the tapes, and allow you to consciously choose your thoughts and actions. You may start to become more aware that it's you creating your reality. Then your Prince/Frog might join you in your awakening and start singing Ding Dong! The Witch is Dead. About the Author

Satya Winkelman, M.A.,is a psychotherapist, a communication trainer for Fortune 500 companies, Director of Wise Women Retreats,and an Artist. She is the author of a self-help book,"Through the Fire: A Guide to Transformation" using her senseous art as guides to higher consciousness. See art 

Openness Is a Key Factor to Build Love in a Relationship

For many couples building love in relationship can be quite difficult. This is because couples have to take several certain decisions that could be really hard to take but it can be a bit exciting at the long run.

For many couples building love in relationship can be quite difficult. This is because couples have to take several certain decisions that could be really hard to take but it can be a bit exciting at the long run. Hold on; do you know what I mean by this statement? Simply put, relationship is a very difficult practice based on the fact that two people of different personality and nature are in the relationship and in one way or the other; they will definitely hurt each other. Relationship hurt, relationship heartbreak, relationship disappointments are more of the reasons why relationship remains very difficult job. However, if you and your spouse can build love gradually with a few steps I will be highlighting here, with God in your side, you and your partner will surely experience a successful relationship.

While you and your partner are engaged in the process of building love in relationship then you both must respect the word 'OPENNESS'. Now, you are thinking that what does this have to do with a love relationship. Being open in your relationship is of course a very effective way of building love in your relationship. This really implies that both of you have to tell each other everything about each other. In addition to this, you both have to tell each other all the truth about each other. Here I would say that there is one thing I know, which is, only the truth can set you free. Yes, this also can be implied in your relationship, meaning that, if you and your spouse can be that open minded towards each other, you both will share truth and truth alone. As a result, this will bring the much desired love in the relationship.

According to experts, one most common thing that might be responsible in bringing problem in a relation is money. Take for instance, money is a big cause in any relationship, and male category has to be very open to their female partners if they really want to save their relationship from the wrath of money. It is wise to tell your partner about your income and the amount you have in the bank. Remember, if you are smiling in your income, let her know, if you are not smiling because of the income, please, let her know to avoid the unnecessary differences. Let her also have an easy access to your bank account at any time. Yes, the same applies to women who are also in relationship or married. Openness and not secrecy saves any relationship and builds love between the two. About the Author

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After a Break Up With Your Girlfriend

Honesty is usually the best policy in relationships, also an understanding of one's own self and one's partner very helpful. Even the most healthy relationships can go down a wrong path if work is not done. In this respect a relationship can be like a car - do periodic maintenance or pay a bigger price later...

In case if you are not sure why your relationship do not last for long or why you break up then it is very difficult situation for you to move on after a break up. After a break up you should always remember the causes like why it is failed so that you will not repeat that mistake again or what are you desires from your future relationships.

The reasons behind a break up

It is often seen that if a couple have problems in their relation they respond out of wrath and pain. And also these heated arguments usually cover up the actual issues. To illustrate if your lover is possessive and jealous then he or she is insecure and it is his fault not from your side.

You need to know the reason for these problems why this relation is not good for you in the beginning. This information is important because then you will able to understand it is only the matter of having different personality.

How will you cope up with this problem?

Unfortunately, if you notice that the relationship broken because of some sorts of things which you know and you have problems with it, then it’s essential for you to handle it immediately so to ensure that this behavior will repeat in future.

Persons, who seem to have an emotional baggage that will not, allowing them to establish a new relationship, so they will never able seriously, proceed in their life until it is totally solved. For this you have to be extremely honest with yourself and also you have to take strong step for your forever change. As nobody is completely perfect and so always you should think that you are actually a much better person for spotting your faults and also taking right steps for resolving them.

Other reason for break up and situation after break up

If emotionally well-balanced couple breaks up, then it’s generally because of growing distant between them. Generally such types of love affairs are less emotionally unstable whenever it ended, but both of them are able to maintain a friendly relation afterwards. This kind of situation is very ideal since it shows the maturity and as well as emotional stability between the two people. It is not necessary to be best friends; however at least getting friendly you can avoid having bitterness and other negative feelings for each other. After a breakup, the decision to move on shows your ability to forgive your ex – lover from any of their misdeed. This approach definitely will go very far in order to heal your broken heart.

Continuous fightsor arguments for worthless issues may possibly increase the pain and also increase the chance to end a relationship. After A Breakup, moving forward implies that you are emotionally alright with it and honestly want your ex – partner to be the best. If you surely prepared to move forward then only you allow going of no hurt feelings and forgiving your lover.

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Girlfriend Cheating In A Relationship

Back in the "old days" is was usually men who did the cheating on women. Times have changed and what once was good for the goose is now good for the gander, or so it seems...

Nothing is more disheartening to a relationship than finding out that your girlfriend has been cheating behind you. It can break your heart and can definitely knock the wind out of your sails. But, dispute of this, cheating in a relationship can be overcome with time. Please take the time to focus on your relationship and try to work things out, in many cases you can. Don’t give up.

One of the best things you can do is to take plenty of time to try to figure out what happened. Unless one of you is a chronic cheater, the cheating came from somewhere (not that this is an excuse) but to fix things you need to know what happened to create the situation in the first place.

If you or your girlfriend has been going through some things and maybe that situation has put stress on your relationship than you may need to start there. But, I know I’m repeating myself but it’s that important, that doesn’t mean it was ok that either of you turned to another person to feel better about yourself. No matter what situations the two of you are dealing with, it doesn’t make it ok to have an affair.

It’s important to figure that out and fix the cause. You will also need to get help from a therapist. The hurt and anger that you can feel after someone has cheated can almost take on a life of it’s own and it can be very difficult to work past it, especially on your own.

If the two of you understand that the process will take time and it will be painful yet you are still willing to do what needs to be done, than the two of you have a great chance of salvaging your relationship and maybe even making things better than they were before.

Of course, if one or the other of you has a long history of cheating than the problem runs much deeper than just some issue in your relationship. If either of you is like that than the best thing for you to do is for the “cheater” to get some serious counseling to figure out why they are so flawed that they think it’s ok to do what they want to do no matter who they hurt and what promises you go back on.
When you make a commitment to someone, that is a promise. Even if you don’t come out and say the words “I won’t be with another person” once you and your partner enter into a committed relationship that is the same as making a promise.